SmallTalk to Real Talk Transition

These scripts help you move form polite surface-level chatter to actual conversations-without oversharing, overshooting or making it weird.

1. Okay, real question-how are you really doing lately?
2. On a real note...how's your energy been?
3. I've been trying to be more intentional about connections.  Do you ever feel like it's gotten harder?
4. We should do this more often-it feels good to talk like this.
5. I'm realizing I miss conversations that go beyond the surface.  What's been going on with you?
6. Honest moment-I'm trying to get out of my own bubble.  How are things on your side?
7. I love when we get past the small talk.  What's something good that's happened to you lately?
8. I'm working on not defaulting to "I'm fine".  What's something real for you right now?

Why this works?

It gently signals "I'm safe to go a little deeper," giving her permission to do the same.